I debated even posting this because growing up, sexuality was not an appropriate thing to talk about. As I’ve grown up, I’ve realized there is a huge double standard when it comes to sexuality. I decided to post this because it needs to be said. I know I’m not the first person to discuss this issue, but it needs to be talked about. Females are judged based on sexuality, whereas men are praised for it.
Women are shamed whether or not they choose to have sex. If they choose to abstain, they are considered a prude. If they choose not to wait, they are considered sluts. Once someone figures out a woman’s sexuality, they don’t focus on her character.
I know this can apply to men, too, but in my experience, men are not shamed for this. It is considered admirable if a man chooses to wait to have sex. If a man chooses not to wait, he is praised.
I vividly remember in high school, it got out that two students slept together just once. Everyone called the girl a slut. Everyone congratulated the boy for getting her.
That is just one story about the double standards of female sexuality.
I know in my personal experience, I was taught that my body is something to be desired. Being a Christian, I was taught to save myself for my husband, or I would be a disgrace. I’ve talked to Christian men about this issue, and they usually don’t feel as much pressure to stay pure. Even in a religion that teaches us that God loves us all, women are still being told that they are inferior.
In my opinion, this problem is going on because women are viewed as objects.
Our bodies are not objects to be desired. We are not a prize to be won. We are not bad people based how we make a personal choice. There is definitely more to a woman than whether or not she is a virgin. We are human beings that should be allowed to make a choice.
Sexuality is something that is so natural and personal. Women should be proud and confident about their choice, but they are being shamed instead.
This may just be a lot of jumbled thoughts, but it has been weighing down on my mind for a while.
Be kind always.