We Need Feminism in the Workplace 

Feminism has come such a long way, but we need to make a few improvements. This post will be about my own personal experiences, so I will not be able to completely cover this rather broad subject. 

This is why I need feminism in the workplace:

My first reason is because some of the children I’m in charge of will not listen to women. I don’t know why, but some of the kids are under the impression that men have more authority. This problem is being worked on, but it pisses me off that it even exists in the first place.

The second reason is a little more complex and aggravating. I have a male coworker, we’ll call him Jeff,  who makes me very uncomfortable. Jeff makes comments about my physical appearance, stares at me, sends me random messages, and is very touchy. He also does these things with another female coworker. Nothing he does is against our handbook, so my discomfort is my own problem. He isn’t doing anything illegal or dangerous, but I don’t want to be flirted with at work. Also, things will be so complex if I mention how uncomfortable this makes me. I don’t want to be responsible for any issues at work. I just wish I was viewed as somebody at work to do a job, not to be flirted with and goggled at.

I really do work at a great place, but I know other women are feeling the pressure I’m feeling and maybe even then some. Again, I can’t speak of other issues such as unequal pay or not getting promotions because of my gender because I haven’t experienced anything like that. My point is, the workplace is in need of feminism. 

I would love to hear feedback. Do you have any experiences in this area? Maybe from a male perspective? Let me know in the comments. 

Just Because I’m a Woman 

I am so glad that I am lucky enough to live in a country where women have rights. Feminism has come a long way, but we still have more to accomplish. We live in a world where women are subtly told they are inferior to men.

Maybe this all has to do with the first female presidential candidate being elected, but I have noticed more and more sexist remarks being made every day. 

Recently, I bought a Spider-Man tshirt from the men’s section, and let me tell you, all hell broke loose. I was criticized for being into sci fi and shopping in the men’s department. I can’t believe I actually have to justify my actions for buying a tshirt, but here I am. I bought the shirt in the men’s section for a few different reasons. 

  1. The women’s section didn’t have anything sci fi related.
  2. The men’s section is cheaper.
  3. The material used in men’s shirts is far more durable than women’s clothing.

After buying this shirt, I was told no guy would want to go on a date with a “non girly girl.” 

I’m going to let you take a break for that well needed eye roll.

Back to the story. Not only was I told that I should prioritize guys’ opinions over my own, but all men were generalized in the process. 

Within this past week, I was also told by an older relative that I better learn to cook and clean properly so my future husband will stay with me. Apparently, I’m going to be getting married in the 1950’s. 

Now, I don’t want you to think this post is all about how sexist comments are “offensive.” The problem runs so much deeper than that. 

The problem is that women are still viewed as objects. As long as women are viewed as objects, their basic human rights are reduced. Instead of women getting justice when raped, they are asked what they were wearing, and told that it’s a compliment. Instead of making a fair amount of money for their work, there are still women that are being paid less than men  for the same exact work performed. Instead of being allowed to celebrate their bodies, women are shamed (and taxed) for natural occurring processes, aka, the pink tax. 

The problem has never been about sexist comments, it is about equality and deserving basic human rights. 

Just because I am a woman, doesn’t mean I can’t be myself. Just because I am a woman, doesn’t mean I am any less of a human than a man.

Be kind always.

Female Sexuality 

I debated even posting this because growing up, sexuality was not an appropriate thing to talk about. As I’ve grown up, I’ve realized there is a huge double standard when it comes to sexuality. I decided to post this because it needs to be said. I know I’m not the first person to discuss this issue, but it needs to be talked about. Females are judged based on sexuality, whereas men are praised for it.

Women are shamed whether or not they choose to have sex. If they choose to abstain, they are considered a prude. If they choose not to wait, they are considered sluts. Once someone figures out a woman’s sexuality, they don’t focus on her character.

I know this can apply to men, too, but in my experience, men are not shamed for this. It is considered admirable if a man chooses to wait to have sex. If a man chooses not to wait, he is praised.

I vividly remember in high school, it got out that two students slept together just once. Everyone called the girl a slut. Everyone congratulated the boy for getting her.

That is just one story about the double standards of female sexuality.

I know in my personal experience, I was taught that my body is something to be desired. Being a Christian, I was taught to save myself for my husband, or I would be a disgrace. I’ve talked to Christian men about this issue, and they usually don’t feel as much pressure to stay pure. Even in a religion that teaches us that God loves us all, women are still being told that they are inferior.

In my opinion, this problem is going on because women are viewed as objects.

Our bodies are not objects to be desired. We are not a prize to be won. We are not bad people based how we make a personal choice. There is definitely more to a woman than whether or not she is a virgin. We are human beings that should be allowed to make a choice.

Sexuality is something that is so natural and personal. Women should be proud and confident about their choice, but they are being shamed instead.

This may just be a lot of jumbled thoughts, but it has been weighing down on my mind for a while.

Be kind always.

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Inspiring Women 

It’s no secret that a lot of women feel the need to compete with each other. It is so deeply ingrained in us to feel jealous and competitive, rather than proud and supportive. We feel the need to bash other successful women for having something that we are simply jealous of. I won’t pretend I have never felt that way. I realized how ridiculous that is, though. In a world that already tears us down and degrades us, why are we adding to that? Women need to build each other up. We need to realize that we can all be successful, but that can’t happen when we are spending so much time and energy hating on each other. Basically what I am trying to say is that we need to straighten out our priorities. I decided to make a list of women that inspire me.
Before I go on with this post, I want to state that I value these characteristics in both men and women. I am only solely mentioning women because I think it is high time that we start supporting each other. I hope you are able to draw inspiration from this list of inspiring women.

1. Lilly Singh: You may know her as Superwoman. She is one of the most inspiring people I can think of. After going through depression, she started making YouTube videos simply because they made her happy. She is now taking the world by storm. She is honest and unapologetically herself. She also actively encourages girls to love and support each other. She makes me believe that anything is possible if I work hard.
2. Selena Gomez: You guys know how much I love my girl, Sel Gomez. She grew up in the spotlight, and handled it with such grace. She was deprived of a private life, meaning she had to deal with her lows while everyone watched and critiqued. Instead of acting out, she kills with kindness. I also love how comfortable she is in her body, and how she spreads the message of how important body positivity is. She inspires me to be better.

3. Bailee Madison: I swear, Bailee Madison is a ray of sunshine. She values and displays a kind heart. She believes that this generation can change the world, and inspires us to do so. She is a great part of the change the world needs to see.

4. Emma Watson: This woman can play any role she is given. She is a feminist and a Goodwill Ambassadors for UN Women. She values education, and even took time off acting to attend college and get a degree. She never fails to inspire me.

5. J.K. Rowling: I just love her so much. She went through a dark point in her life due to depression. She managed to fight through it, and in doing so, she created one of the most successful book series of all time. In addition to that, she founded the charity, Lumos. Not only is she successful in her career, she also promotes the idea of love and kindness. There is nothing this woman can’t accomplish.

These are just a few women that inspire me. I would love to hear your feedback! Comment below and tell me about the women you look up to.
Keep inspiring, and be kind always.

I’m not a cat, so stop calling me. 

Today, I was sitting in the middle school parking lot while waiting to pick my little brother up from school. Nothing eventful was happening until a group of middle school boys walked past my car and began shouting sexual things at me. That’s right, I was catcalled by 13 year old boys. I don’t even know where to begin with how wrong this is. Being catcalled is never not creepy, but there is something especially gross about it when young boys do it.

If these young boys don’t have a problem behaving this way with someone older than them, I can’t help but wonder how they treat the girls they go to school with. It is absolutely ridiculous that young girls and women are scared of what guys will do to them in public, but everyone should feel safe in school.
I don’t know where the discipline is. Perhaps there is none because objectifying women is still unfortunately common and “not a big deal.” Maybe there is no discipline because “boys will be boys” and “they’re just kids.” The problem with that logic is that those boys could very well grow into men that can’t hear the word “no.” I honestly pray that isn’t the case with these kids, but someone needs to do something to change the way they treat women.
Instead of just being angry about this, I wanted to use this situation as an opportunity to spread awareness. Please treat everyone with respect.
Be kind always.