Just Because I’m a Woman 

I am so glad that I am lucky enough to live in a country where women have rights. Feminism has come a long way, but we still have more to accomplish. We live in a world where women are subtly told they are inferior to men.

Maybe this all has to do with the first female presidential candidate being elected, but I have noticed more and more sexist remarks being made every day. 

Recently, I bought a Spider-Man tshirt from the men’s section, and let me tell you, all hell broke loose. I was criticized for being into sci fi and shopping in the men’s department. I can’t believe I actually have to justify my actions for buying a tshirt, but here I am. I bought the shirt in the men’s section for a few different reasons. 

  1. The women’s section didn’t have anything sci fi related.
  2. The men’s section is cheaper.
  3. The material used in men’s shirts is far more durable than women’s clothing.

After buying this shirt, I was told no guy would want to go on a date with a “non girly girl.” 

I’m going to let you take a break for that well needed eye roll.

Back to the story. Not only was I told that I should prioritize guys’ opinions over my own, but all men were generalized in the process. 

Within this past week, I was also told by an older relative that I better learn to cook and clean properly so my future husband will stay with me. Apparently, I’m going to be getting married in the 1950’s. 

Now, I don’t want you to think this post is all about how sexist comments are “offensive.” The problem runs so much deeper than that. 

The problem is that women are still viewed as objects. As long as women are viewed as objects, their basic human rights are reduced. Instead of women getting justice when raped, they are asked what they were wearing, and told that it’s a compliment. Instead of making a fair amount of money for their work, there are still women that are being paid less than men  for the same exact work performed. Instead of being allowed to celebrate their bodies, women are shamed (and taxed) for natural occurring processes, aka, the pink tax. 

The problem has never been about sexist comments, it is about equality and deserving basic human rights. 

Just because I am a woman, doesn’t mean I can’t be myself. Just because I am a woman, doesn’t mean I am any less of a human than a man.

Be kind always.

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Anti Hate 

The news has been full of tragic stories over the past couple of days. First, a 22 year old singer was shot and killed at her concert, and now 50 people have been shot and killed in a night club. This has left me feeling sick and devastated for the past 48 hours. Yes, I’m angry, but I will not act out.

I will not succumb to hate. I am sending prayers to the people hurting from these tragedies. I’m praying that the violence will cease to exist, and tragedy will be no more. I am hugging my loved ones, and will continue to offer support. I know that the fault doesn’t lie with one race or religion. Whether you are Christian, Muslim, atheist, gay, straight, colored, or white, I stand with you.

We are all part of the human race, and the majority of us want to love peacefully. We should be allowed to live and love peacefully. United we stand.

Fight with love, and be kind always.

Female Sexuality 

I debated even posting this because growing up, sexuality was not an appropriate thing to talk about. As I’ve grown up, I’ve realized there is a huge double standard when it comes to sexuality. I decided to post this because it needs to be said. I know I’m not the first person to discuss this issue, but it needs to be talked about. Females are judged based on sexuality, whereas men are praised for it.

Women are shamed whether or not they choose to have sex. If they choose to abstain, they are considered a prude. If they choose not to wait, they are considered sluts. Once someone figures out a woman’s sexuality, they don’t focus on her character.

I know this can apply to men, too, but in my experience, men are not shamed for this. It is considered admirable if a man chooses to wait to have sex. If a man chooses not to wait, he is praised.

I vividly remember in high school, it got out that two students slept together just once. Everyone called the girl a slut. Everyone congratulated the boy for getting her.

That is just one story about the double standards of female sexuality.

I know in my personal experience, I was taught that my body is something to be desired. Being a Christian, I was taught to save myself for my husband, or I would be a disgrace. I’ve talked to Christian men about this issue, and they usually don’t feel as much pressure to stay pure. Even in a religion that teaches us that God loves us all, women are still being told that they are inferior.

In my opinion, this problem is going on because women are viewed as objects.

Our bodies are not objects to be desired. We are not a prize to be won. We are not bad people based how we make a personal choice. There is definitely more to a woman than whether or not she is a virgin. We are human beings that should be allowed to make a choice.

Sexuality is something that is so natural and personal. Women should be proud and confident about their choice, but they are being shamed instead.

This may just be a lot of jumbled thoughts, but it has been weighing down on my mind for a while.

Be kind always.

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